listen | fear
"When i ask you to listen to me and you start giving advice,
you have not done what i asked.
When i ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why i shouldnt feel that way,
you are trampling on my feelings.
When i ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem,
you have failed me, strange as that may seem.
Listen! All i asked wat that you listen.
Not to talk or do - just hear me.
Advice is cheap. Ten cents will get you both Dear Abby and Bill Graham in the same newspaper.
And i can do for myself. I'm not helpless.
Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.
When you do something for me that i can and need to do for myself,
you contribute to my fear and weakness.
But, when you accept as a single fact that i do feel what i feel,
no matter how irrational, then i can quit trying to convince you
and get to the business of understanding what is behind this irrational feeling.
And when that is clear,
the answers are obvious and i dont need advice.
Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what is behind them.
So, please listen and just hear me.
And if you want to talk,
wait a minute for your turn and i'll listen to you."
~Anon
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"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves: Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?"
~Nelson Mandela
under the most bizarre circumstances, i pick up the most valuable lessons.
anyhows, when i finally decide to go on a long overdued rampage, i'd ensure enough convenient collateral damages.
jacq | 8:27:00 PM
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